An Open Letter to My Potential Future Husband- The Unrevealed Queen Inside Me
Hello My Future Husband,
I know I have started with a corny touch. But when it is you, my love and emotions are different. I have looked forward to getting married since before I truly knew what a marriage meant. Before we tie the knot in the solemn promises of holy matrimony, there are some things that I want to express it to you. Some things that I want you to know and some that I ask of you.
- We will be called as life partners for a reason. We might match each other in some aspects, but we have equal rights:
We shall both be partners in crime. Marriage should not be the oversimplified concept for us that society stereotypically describes. We should be together forever. We will take vital decisions of life together and will share as many responsibilities as we can. Remember, that you are my equal. Neither you will be superior to me nor will I be superior to you.
- You mean the world to me, but that doesn’t mean that my world will revolve around you:
I trust you with my life and love you with all my heart. But I want you to appreciate that our lives go beyond each other. We have our own friends, families and careers. I hope you respect that sometimes you might not be my only priority and you accept that it is for good reason.
- I enjoy sex as much as you do. But when I say ‘NO’, I want you to respect my space, as I would be respecting yours:
Marriage isn’t a license to sex nor does it demand one’s physical possession over another. I have full ownership of my body, and you should at no time think otherwise. Sex is between two people who enjoy it equally. We will have it a lot in our lifetime. But if I am not comfortable at any point, you need to respect my space and stop, if I show any sign of hesitation. The rules apply to everyone. Married or not.
- It’s okay to forget anniversaries and special dates sometimes. Trust me, I won’t judge you for it. So don’t judge me either:
Forgetting dates is a human nature and it’s completely acceptable. Dates don’t matter to me as much as feelings and emotions do, and a day or two hardly makes a difference. There are more important things for us to be anxious about. Let’s focus on that and not waste our time on minor stuffs, and celebrate our special days on any day we want, in any way we like.
- My family should be as important to you, as yours is to me:
I will love your family and will accept them with open arms, but at the same time I expect nothing less from you. Your family is going to be a huge part of my life now, and I promise you that I will care for them the way you do. All I want from you is to feel the same kind of responsibility and love towards my family.
I am not going to say this will be a perfect marriage, because I feel nothing is perfect in this world and imperfection is always beautiful. We will have tough times along with good but I want you to know that you are my person and will be mine forever. I have searched long and trust me it was hard to find someone like you that fit me so well. I will do everything I can to keep you happy as I hope you will do the same.
Your Future Mrs.